Advice from people that know...
There was a recent article by Mary Grieco in the "Catholic Herald". They were interviewing couples that have been together longer than 50 years and this is what they said:
Max says they "keep moving" and gives credit to Bessie's good cooking and a healthy lifestyle on the farm for their longevity. Bessie also thinks that the many apples they ate from their large orchard might have contributed to their good health.
"We have been very blessed," Bessie said. "And we always took our marriage vows seriously." They continue to keep the promises they made nearly seven decades ago and for now "are just taking one day at a time."
Several other couples were asked what advice they would give to newlyweds to make their marriage survive and thrive. The two most common responses were to be faithful and to resolve disagreements before going to sleep at night.
"Be willing to sit and discuss your problems before you go into a fit of anger; they aren't always as bad as they seem," said June Foris of Our Lady of the Lake in Ashland. "It just gets better as you get older. If kids would just realize that." She and her husband, Thomas, have been married 56 years.
"It takes a lot of patience," agreed Joseph and Ruth Brauneis of Our Lady Queen of the Universe in Woodruff who have been married 54 years. "And always respect the other one's dignity."
"Make an effort to be the first one, not the last, to say your are sorry," said Jane Quick of St. Theresa in Three Lakes. She and Bob are celebrating 63 years of marriage.
"Be compromising on matters about which you disagree," advised Don Guzman, who has been married to Pat for 51 years. They are members of St. Joseph in Rhinelander.
Also members of St. Joseph are Bill and Betty Fahrenbach who have been married 58 years. "Be patient, faithful and understanding and love each other," Bill said.
"Always make it fifty-fifty, not sixty-forty," said Cyril Van Goethen of St. Patrick in Minocqua. He and Helen were married 65 years ago. "And don't go to bed without kissing or hugging your wife. If you had an argument, it will be okay in the morning."
"Cherish and make time for each other," is Angela Augustine's advice. That has worked well for her and Edward. They have been married 66 years and are members of Our Lady of the North in Phillips.
"Don't give up so soon," said Anne Campbell. "Try to put up with a little something once in a while. She and Willis belong to St. Anne in Sanborn and will be celebrating their 58th anniversary this year.
Charlotte and Victor Zimmerman of St. John Baptist in Bloomville agree. They were married 58 years ago. "Keep trying; don't give up," she said.
"Be faithful, honest and truthful, and trust each other," said Betty Leonard Skrobot of Our Lady Queen of Peace in Manitowish Waters. She and Leonard have been married 58 years.
Something that has worked for Laddie and Dolores Holoubek of Our Lady of the North in Phillips is a pact they made when they were married 50 years ago. They agree that when they are angry they will wait five minutes before saying anything.
To read this article, click here or the title of this post
Max says they "keep moving" and gives credit to Bessie's good cooking and a healthy lifestyle on the farm for their longevity. Bessie also thinks that the many apples they ate from their large orchard might have contributed to their good health.
"We have been very blessed," Bessie said. "And we always took our marriage vows seriously." They continue to keep the promises they made nearly seven decades ago and for now "are just taking one day at a time."
Several other couples were asked what advice they would give to newlyweds to make their marriage survive and thrive. The two most common responses were to be faithful and to resolve disagreements before going to sleep at night.
"Be willing to sit and discuss your problems before you go into a fit of anger; they aren't always as bad as they seem," said June Foris of Our Lady of the Lake in Ashland. "It just gets better as you get older. If kids would just realize that." She and her husband, Thomas, have been married 56 years.
"It takes a lot of patience," agreed Joseph and Ruth Brauneis of Our Lady Queen of the Universe in Woodruff who have been married 54 years. "And always respect the other one's dignity."
"Make an effort to be the first one, not the last, to say your are sorry," said Jane Quick of St. Theresa in Three Lakes. She and Bob are celebrating 63 years of marriage.
"Be compromising on matters about which you disagree," advised Don Guzman, who has been married to Pat for 51 years. They are members of St. Joseph in Rhinelander.
Also members of St. Joseph are Bill and Betty Fahrenbach who have been married 58 years. "Be patient, faithful and understanding and love each other," Bill said.
"Always make it fifty-fifty, not sixty-forty," said Cyril Van Goethen of St. Patrick in Minocqua. He and Helen were married 65 years ago. "And don't go to bed without kissing or hugging your wife. If you had an argument, it will be okay in the morning."
"Cherish and make time for each other," is Angela Augustine's advice. That has worked well for her and Edward. They have been married 66 years and are members of Our Lady of the North in Phillips.
"Don't give up so soon," said Anne Campbell. "Try to put up with a little something once in a while. She and Willis belong to St. Anne in Sanborn and will be celebrating their 58th anniversary this year.
Charlotte and Victor Zimmerman of St. John Baptist in Bloomville agree. They were married 58 years ago. "Keep trying; don't give up," she said.
"Be faithful, honest and truthful, and trust each other," said Betty Leonard Skrobot of Our Lady Queen of Peace in Manitowish Waters. She and Leonard have been married 58 years.
Something that has worked for Laddie and Dolores Holoubek of Our Lady of the North in Phillips is a pact they made when they were married 50 years ago. They agree that when they are angry they will wait five minutes before saying anything.
To read this article, click here or the title of this post
