New Years wasn't so great for Alisha and Karen. Hope they speak soon.
I found this argument so interesting. Wonder what you guys think?
For New Years my friend, Alisha*, went out with her friend, Karen*. Alisha was finally happy to have Karen to herself. Karen and Alisha are very close college friends. In fact, there is about five girls in their clique. Karen was always known as the headstrong, independent, got it all together, "let's-get-it done," successful friend. In college, Karen dated, but never seemed to have her heart broken like the other girls. In fact, she was the heart breaker. The other friends always saw it as Karen's perfect family dynamic. She grew up with two parents that adored one another - to the point that Karen saw herself and her brothers often playing the third wheel during family outings. All in all, Karen's life story (as the girls saw it) was amazing - upper middle class, prestigious historically black college, equally prestigious grad school, great job right out of college, an active dating life and a tight female circle.
This said, Karen meets Brian*. Brian is an up-and-coming magazine editor. A man that knows all the "it" places, people, events, and cities. Just like Karen - he's on top of his game. No shock to the girls, Karen falls hard for Brian. They do long distance for a while, but that no longer makes sense for them. So, they move together in his booming city and amazing apartment. She gets a job (of course) and they are working hard to create, as she puts it, "a life together."
In the meantime, Alisha and two of "the girls" are super happy about this, because Brian lives in the same big booming city as them. This means, Karen is no longer two long hours away from her girls.
But then something crazy happens, Karen sees Alisha less than she did when they lived two hours away. Karen is constantly with Brian. And when she isn't with Brian (who is out and about pretty often), she is setting up the house: cooking, laundry, cleaning, hanging out with his mother, sisters, cousins, etc. Karen has no interest in clubs, parties, or outings where her girls are "man-hunting," because she already has a man. In fact, when she is out, all she talks about is Brian's "soon-to-be" marriage proposal.
All this to say, it was a shock when Karen agreed to go out with all the girls for New Years. Well, kinda a shock, Brian needed to go to LA "for business." So they go to a "hot" spot, the girls are enjoying the party until...
Some females, acquaintances, approach the table. During the conversation, one of the girls mentions her school - happens to be the same school Brian attends. Karen immediately asks whether she knew Brian. And this conversation ensues:
Random Female A: Of course, I know Brian. Ladies, (to her friends) y'all remember Brian...you know...Briannnnnnnn from the store...
(all the women begin to smile)
Random Females B and C: oh yeah...
Random Female A: I can't believe he is still on the market - that man is too fly to be single.
Karen: Well, he's not on the market (attitude starting to show)
Random A: Oh my bad, I'm just going by his facebook status and the fact that you don't have a ring on your finger - nor does he.
A passive aggressive argument erupts.The ladies leave.
Karen is sitting with her girls. Alisha tells her how out of hand that girl was. Karen agrees and says, there's no difference between my relationship with Brian and being married. Alisha and Karen's friend, Taylor, speaks up: "yes there is." Karen is shocked by Taylor, the quiet, studious, married friend. "What are you talking about?"
Taylor simply says, there is a huge difference between being someone's girlfriend and being married...
Karen, making a low-blow says:"I do more for Brian than you do for Mark (Taylor's husband). I'm more a wife than you are."
Alisha immediately jumps in (possibly pent up emotions), "that's the issue - you aren't a wife at all.
If Brian never comes back to home - he owes you nothing. If Mark leaves, he owes Taylor half. Like if Savannah breaks up with Lebron (this is before the engagement), because he is cheating - she is owed nothing but child support. And she was with him before he went pro! Whereas Vanessa met Kobe, after he went pro, and she is getting half. Why? Simple: Marriage!
Karen: "dang money-hungry...it's not about money with us - unlike the broke man you dealing with. Plus, why you all in celebrity business - you need to be taking care of your situation. I don't see a ring on your finger and how long has it been with Ben?"
Taylor: "let's leave it here - marriage is different than boyfriend/girlfriend - at least to Brian - if it wasn't than he would have proposed..."
Alisha: and changed his facebook status.
Taylor: "Clearly there is something that is holding him back from that with you - regardless of how great you are at doing wifely-chores. P.S. Technically speaking, if you aren't married than you are single with a boyfriend or a fiance."
Karen: shouts and says some more hurtful things (about how a ring doesn't matter, because Taylor's father never even wears his ring, does that mean he's single?) and storms out.
They haven't spoken since.
Wowzahhaas. Alisha totally doesn't know what to do at this point. She misses Alisha, but doesn't know what to say to bring them back together. Happy New Year, I guess...
*Y'all know these are some fake names.
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For New Years my friend, Alisha*, went out with her friend, Karen*. Alisha was finally happy to have Karen to herself. Karen and Alisha are very close college friends. In fact, there is about five girls in their clique. Karen was always known as the headstrong, independent, got it all together, "let's-get-it done," successful friend. In college, Karen dated, but never seemed to have her heart broken like the other girls. In fact, she was the heart breaker. The other friends always saw it as Karen's perfect family dynamic. She grew up with two parents that adored one another - to the point that Karen saw herself and her brothers often playing the third wheel during family outings. All in all, Karen's life story (as the girls saw it) was amazing - upper middle class, prestigious historically black college, equally prestigious grad school, great job right out of college, an active dating life and a tight female circle.
This said, Karen meets Brian*. Brian is an up-and-coming magazine editor. A man that knows all the "it" places, people, events, and cities. Just like Karen - he's on top of his game. No shock to the girls, Karen falls hard for Brian. They do long distance for a while, but that no longer makes sense for them. So, they move together in his booming city and amazing apartment. She gets a job (of course) and they are working hard to create, as she puts it, "a life together."
In the meantime, Alisha and two of "the girls" are super happy about this, because Brian lives in the same big booming city as them. This means, Karen is no longer two long hours away from her girls.
But then something crazy happens, Karen sees Alisha less than she did when they lived two hours away. Karen is constantly with Brian. And when she isn't with Brian (who is out and about pretty often), she is setting up the house: cooking, laundry, cleaning, hanging out with his mother, sisters, cousins, etc. Karen has no interest in clubs, parties, or outings where her girls are "man-hunting," because she already has a man. In fact, when she is out, all she talks about is Brian's "soon-to-be" marriage proposal.
All this to say, it was a shock when Karen agreed to go out with all the girls for New Years. Well, kinda a shock, Brian needed to go to LA "for business." So they go to a "hot" spot, the girls are enjoying the party until...
Some females, acquaintances, approach the table. During the conversation, one of the girls mentions her school - happens to be the same school Brian attends. Karen immediately asks whether she knew Brian. And this conversation ensues:
Random Female A: Of course, I know Brian. Ladies, (to her friends) y'all remember Brian...you know...Briannnnnnnn from the store...
(all the women begin to smile)
Random Females B and C: oh yeah...
Random Female A: I can't believe he is still on the market - that man is too fly to be single.
Karen: Well, he's not on the market (attitude starting to show)
Random A: Oh my bad, I'm just going by his facebook status and the fact that you don't have a ring on your finger - nor does he.
A passive aggressive argument erupts.The ladies leave.
Karen is sitting with her girls. Alisha tells her how out of hand that girl was. Karen agrees and says, there's no difference between my relationship with Brian and being married. Alisha and Karen's friend, Taylor, speaks up: "yes there is." Karen is shocked by Taylor, the quiet, studious, married friend. "What are you talking about?"
Taylor simply says, there is a huge difference between being someone's girlfriend and being married...
Karen, making a low-blow says:"I do more for Brian than you do for Mark (Taylor's husband). I'm more a wife than you are."
Alisha immediately jumps in (possibly pent up emotions), "that's the issue - you aren't a wife at all.
If Brian never comes back to home - he owes you nothing. If Mark leaves, he owes Taylor half. Like if Savannah breaks up with Lebron (this is before the engagement), because he is cheating - she is owed nothing but child support. And she was with him before he went pro! Whereas Vanessa met Kobe, after he went pro, and she is getting half. Why? Simple: Marriage!
Karen: "dang money-hungry...it's not about money with us - unlike the broke man you dealing with. Plus, why you all in celebrity business - you need to be taking care of your situation. I don't see a ring on your finger and how long has it been with Ben?"
Taylor: "let's leave it here - marriage is different than boyfriend/girlfriend - at least to Brian - if it wasn't than he would have proposed..."
Alisha: and changed his facebook status.
Taylor: "Clearly there is something that is holding him back from that with you - regardless of how great you are at doing wifely-chores. P.S. Technically speaking, if you aren't married than you are single with a boyfriend or a fiance."
Karen: shouts and says some more hurtful things (about how a ring doesn't matter, because Taylor's father never even wears his ring, does that mean he's single?) and storms out.
They haven't spoken since.
Wowzahhaas. Alisha totally doesn't know what to do at this point. She misses Alisha, but doesn't know what to say to bring them back together. Happy New Year, I guess...
*Y'all know these are some fake names.
