FOR REAL?!? We are so much better than this!
I AM SO UPSET, RIGHT NOW! I CAN'T CONCENTRATE ON ANYTHING BUT THIS RIDICULOUSNESS! REALLY?!? I never do this but I am hot and need to vent...
All this talk about how many black women are not married, how most men prefer women that are not black, how black women need to lower our standards - it's really upsetting! REALLY!
It is bad enough that as black women, we are constantly degraded in music, exaggerated/simplified/stereotyped in television shows, made a mockery of in society, barely represented on runways/fashion spreads, and underestimated by our peers - but to realize that society has deemed us "un-wifeable" has pushed me over the edge. Throughout history, black women have had a tough load that we've handled and handled with dignity - we've been pregnant (raped/beaten/killed) in the fields during slavery, we've been beaten/spit on/cursed out in the streets during the civil rights movement (just to go home and cook), and now...we are STINKIN' unwifeable...are you kidding me. WE ARE BEAUTIFUL, INTELLIGENT, STRONG, LOYAL, FLAVORFUL, and deserve everything...everything any other woman gets!!! Decades ago, Zora Neale Hurston said:
Honey, de white man is de ruler of everything as fur as Ah been able tub find out. Maybe it's some place off in de ocean where de black man is in power, but we don't know nothin’ but we see. So de white man throw down de load and tell de nigger man tuh pick it up. He pick it up because he have to, but he don't tote it. He hand it to his womenfolks. De nigger woman is de mule uh de world so far as Ah can see.
--Their Eyes Were Watching God Zora Neale Hurston
And now in 2010, THIS! REALLY!
Please check out a few of my references (I have a lot more but didn't want to load this blog) e-mail me for more:
My friend Ronita posted this on her blog (The Cincy Glam Life) - watch this special:
I will say that the Reggie Bush cover deeply disappointed me.
Other sisters are infuriated and I don't think it's hard to tell why. Even Black women who take no moral or social issue with interracial dating tend to be sensitive about the number of Black entertainers and athletes who choose non-Black women as wives and girlfriends. And at times, that sensitivity speaks to the caliber of the woman in question. For example, I can't stomach Taye Diggs for the comments he made about Black women who failed to support his ABC series, claiming that it was due to his White wife. I take issue with him for his criticism, because it's unfair. It seems to me that Black women MADE his career and he didn't consider the fact that if more White men and women or Black men had watched his show, it would have still been on the air. However, I know that his wife is a woman who starred in plays with him. A peer, a colleague. Does it make me jump for joy to see them together? No, especially considering his seeming bitterness towards sisters.
Kim Kardashian became famous for for being the friend of Paris Hilton and for being in a sex tape with Brandy's brother. She has a reality show in she portrays herself as a seemingly vapid, shallow woman. Kardashian is beautiful, and she's also known for a body part that is largely associated with Black women. Watching her star rise has been awkard for me, to say the least. We all know that had Kim Kardashian been a Black woman, she would be considered damaged goods and it would be HIGHLY unlikely that she'd be wifed up by a man in the spotlight. Some of same men who write off sisters for what they perceive to be overly sexual reputations laud Reggie for having "a bad chick" like Kardashian by his side.
All this talk about how many black women are not married, how most men prefer women that are not black, how black women need to lower our standards - it's really upsetting! REALLY!
It is bad enough that as black women, we are constantly degraded in music, exaggerated/simplified/stereotyped in television shows, made a mockery of in society, barely represented on runways/fashion spreads, and underestimated by our peers - but to realize that society has deemed us "un-wifeable" has pushed me over the edge. Throughout history, black women have had a tough load that we've handled and handled with dignity - we've been pregnant (raped/beaten/killed) in the fields during slavery, we've been beaten/spit on/cursed out in the streets during the civil rights movement (just to go home and cook), and now...we are STINKIN' unwifeable...are you kidding me. WE ARE BEAUTIFUL, INTELLIGENT, STRONG, LOYAL, FLAVORFUL, and deserve everything...everything any other woman gets!!! Decades ago, Zora Neale Hurston said:
Honey, de white man is de ruler of everything as fur as Ah been able tub find out. Maybe it's some place off in de ocean where de black man is in power, but we don't know nothin’ but we see. So de white man throw down de load and tell de nigger man tuh pick it up. He pick it up because he have to, but he don't tote it. He hand it to his womenfolks. De nigger woman is de mule uh de world so far as Ah can see.
--Their Eyes Were Watching God Zora Neale Hurston
And now in 2010, THIS! REALLY!
Please check out a few of my references (I have a lot more but didn't want to load this blog) e-mail me for more:
My friend Ronita posted this on her blog (The Cincy Glam Life) - watch this special:
This woman did a great job expressing the views of many of the women complining about this front page. This is from a blog (Me, Myself and Eye) sent to me from my girl, Sweet Tea ,
Wednesday, January 06, 2010
Deep Cover
Read story from the beginning by clicking here.
Wednesday, January 06, 2010
Deep Cover
Read story from the beginning by clicking here.
I will say that the Reggie Bush cover deeply disappointed me.
Other sisters are infuriated and I don't think it's hard to tell why. Even Black women who take no moral or social issue with interracial dating tend to be sensitive about the number of Black entertainers and athletes who choose non-Black women as wives and girlfriends. And at times, that sensitivity speaks to the caliber of the woman in question. For example, I can't stomach Taye Diggs for the comments he made about Black women who failed to support his ABC series, claiming that it was due to his White wife. I take issue with him for his criticism, because it's unfair. It seems to me that Black women MADE his career and he didn't consider the fact that if more White men and women or Black men had watched his show, it would have still been on the air. However, I know that his wife is a woman who starred in plays with him. A peer, a colleague. Does it make me jump for joy to see them together? No, especially considering his seeming bitterness towards sisters.
But it makes sense that someone could fall in love with a peer, right?
Kim Kardashian became famous for for being the friend of Paris Hilton and for being in a sex tape with Brandy's brother. She has a reality show in she portrays herself as a seemingly vapid, shallow woman. Kardashian is beautiful, and she's also known for a body part that is largely associated with Black women. Watching her star rise has been awkard for me, to say the least. We all know that had Kim Kardashian been a Black woman, she would be considered damaged goods and it would be HIGHLY unlikely that she'd be wifed up by a man in the spotlight. Some of same men who write off sisters for what they perceive to be overly sexual reputations laud Reggie for having "a bad chick" like Kardashian by his side.
A lot of the ire I hear from sisters about interrcial dating is about the seemingly different standards the Black men who date other women have for them as opposed to for us. On what planet would a Black 22-year-old domestic get to marry a Stanford grad who is one of the world's most successful athletes? Look at Kendra from "Girls Next Door": could a Black woman jump from Hugh Hefner's bed to the altar with a handsome pro-baller? What Black female could escape a sex tape scandal only to become a telvision star with a gorgeous, succesful boyfriend?
To sum up what took me over the edge was this paragraph in her blog - it stung deep:
"A sister posted a forward to a Howard alumni e-group I belong to, filled with pictures of handsome, famous Black men. It was a joking counterpoint to pics of Stacey Dash and Melyssa Ford that had been posted for the fellas. A male friend of mine responded "Those negroes represent about 17 relationships with white women! LOL. Fantasize all you like ladies." It was a slap in the face. A reminder that we aren't even free to fantasise without being reminded that we are not the stuff our fantasy men's dreams are made of. Not because we don't all look like video models or movie stars, but possibly because we are the same race as these men? That didn't feel good to read. "
HOW RIDICULOUS ... and disappointing.
