What do men really want in the beginning?
The other day, I was having a conversation with one of my good girlfriends and we were talking about a mutual acquaintance, "Meg" and her search for love. "Meg" is in her late twenties - she takes good care of herself, extremely smart, well traveled, cultured and has an amazing job at a major company. She is an all-around class act; however although she dates and meets men at happy hours (she goes to specific spots to find her men), she has not had a boyfriend or a second date in a long time - if ever.
About a week ago, my friend accompanied Meg to one of her happy hour locations and two gentlemen that are Meg's type (attractive Wall Street execs, which is why Meg loves the restaurant) approached them. She could tell the men had a long day and wanted to just pick up a drink and talk to some ladies; so, when Meg began to talk to the men they responded and my friend began to realize why Meg is a one date wonder.
This is what she noticed:
WHAT REALLY ATTRACTS MEN WITHIN THE FIRST CONVERSATION? WHAT CAN WOMEN DO TO STOP THEMSELVES FROM BEING A "ONE DATE WONDER"?
What are your thoughts? Is it all physical? A fun girl? Someone they can take out to momma? What gets some girls that second date?
About a week ago, my friend accompanied Meg to one of her happy hour locations and two gentlemen that are Meg's type (attractive Wall Street execs, which is why Meg loves the restaurant) approached them. She could tell the men had a long day and wanted to just pick up a drink and talk to some ladies; so, when Meg began to talk to the men they responded and my friend began to realize why Meg is a one date wonder.
This is what she noticed:
- Meg DOMINATED the conversation. Meg talked the entire time leaving the men very little time to enjoy a back and forth conversation.
- Meg was a bragger - within 10 min. they all knew that Meg traveled around the world and collected art.
- When the men finally got a chance to talk, everything they said was corrected by Meg "you mean - Bergur Sigurbjörnsson, that's how they say it in Iceland."
- Also, everything that they said was wrong - "No, being in France, you actually find that they are polite, when you speak French fluently." SHE EVEN CORRECTED THEIR JOKES!
"Girl, let me tell you - they didn't like her because when men first meet a woman they want to find someone they can have fun with and be comfortable with. They want to know that after a long day, they can come home and play around with you without you getting mad all the time - that's what they look for in the beginning! "Now, to be honest, before my friend said that my opinion was that (GENERALIZATION ALERT) men just want to have sex in the beginning. They look for attraction, to be honest, I thought Meg's issue was due to the men that she was going after- she is only attracted to attractive executives and MOST WOMEN are attracted to executive types, which allows these men to be physically picky. So the fact that she enjoys wearing sweater vests and loafers to happy hours and decides to have deep intellectual conversations within the first 10 min. isn't hitting the man's interest peak; however what my friend said made SO MUCH SENSE to me and I never put it together... but now I have to question:
WHAT REALLY ATTRACTS MEN WITHIN THE FIRST CONVERSATION? WHAT CAN WOMEN DO TO STOP THEMSELVES FROM BEING A "ONE DATE WONDER"?
What are your thoughts? Is it all physical? A fun girl? Someone they can take out to momma? What gets some girls that second date?
MEN YOU ARE NEXT!!!!
